It’s a term that has made waves across the globe as we all adapt to life amidst this pandemic- the new normal. The world is waking up to injustice and an imbalance of power brought upon us by a patriarchal society. More and more people are learning to unlearn, listen, and take accountability for any wrongs they may have unknowingly committed in the past. Issues that have been swept under the rug for decades are gaining momentum, and the world may be getting acquainted to more than just life with a plague. We figured that, while we’re at it, maybe we should look into a few things that we can change within ourselves, to contribute to the benefit of our community, and collectively, the world as a whole.
Some rules are meant to be broken, and we’re starting with a few right here. If we’re gonna be living in a new normal, we may as well adjust it to the right specifications.
WE’RE RAISING OUR STANDARDS
Set up new society standards that allow all genders to thrive in an appropriate work-life integration setting. Moms don’t just keep house anymore, we’re living in a time where women are contributing to household finances at a higher rate than ever before and it’s about time everyone starts acknowledging that. Parents are parents. Gender roles can burn.
NO TOLERANCE FOR BULLSHIT
No one shall pass judgement and make others feel like shit because of their own insecurity. You cannot judge anyone on the basis of pretty much anything, and whoever feels like they are being judged is officially allowed to give the finger. People need to start taking accountability for their actions and we shouldn’t feel bad about implementing it. It’s the right thing to do.
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Motherhood can’t be used as an excuse for drowning in complaints, martyrdom and self pity. Mom-guilt needs to not exist, therefore, allowing yourself to be on YOUR own priority list of people YOU need to take care of is an absolute must. It doesn’t take much, but it does require a little bit more attention to yourself, and the belief that it’s necessary for a healthy and happy life. Because it is.
Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
LIFT EACH OTHER UP
Quit it with the rivalry, for all that’s good and holy. All individuals are unique- which goes for both parents and children. There is no comparison and this is not a competition. And honestly, why should you care about how other people’s kids are doing anyway? We are working towards the same goal, which is, ultimately, not to raise messed up human beings. Nobody gives a shit if your kids start to read before play school anyway. If they do, they shouldn’t. Try cheering for other people and practice empathy instead. We all know the world could use more of that.
BE TRUE TO YOU
Live your truth and feel free to share whatever you want on your own social media without it being perfectly set-up, cropped, and filtered. There is so much pressure for unreasonable standards of success. Share your life proudly and truthfully. You never know who you may inspire. Discuss failures and weaknesses openly. Overcoming your struggle can be the words on someone else’s survival guide.
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
It is nobody’s business to pressure other people into having more kids, or ask when they plan to have the next one, or that they need to try for a girl/boy (opposite gender of already existing brood). It’s not a joke. There are infertility issues, financial hardships, postpartum illnesses, PTSD, and anxiety in general, that come into play that we know nothing about. Take the respectful route and just stay hush about it, ok? This topic is not a conversation starter. Ever.
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX
Gender stereotypes need to be unlearned. Girls can do boy things and vice versa, end of story. You know what I’m talking about. This whole business of “boys will be boys” or “you fight like a girl” has to stop. Boys play with dolls and learn to behave like fathers. Girls can fight and learn to defend themselves. Equality is a real issue, and to be honest, the whole concept of one gender being better than the other is complete bullshit. We all know women run the world.
Just kidding. Equality, remember?
PAY IT FORWARD
Make up your own mind, do your research, ask for recommendations, and end mass consumerism. These overpriced baby deals from that trendy boutique are too cute… but they’re also a trap. Don’t just mindlessly make a purchase because some paid celebrity told you so. No, honey. Hand me downs are wonderful, mother earth will thank you, and so will your savings. It’s a win across the boards.
ONE BECOMES A BUTTERFLY
Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself if you find that the person you are trying to be no longer serves you. Remember, you don’t grow when you’re comfortable, so step out of your comfort zone. Life is a series of trial and error, so keep going, keep trying, and find the right fit for you. You were designed to flourish- in parenting, relationships, work, and life. Believe that.
*Featured image by: Umberto Daina
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